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Saturday in North Carolina

on August 25, 2010 - 8:21am

Last Saturday we took the kids to the Mountains. It was their first time seeing the Appalachians up close. Granted these old Mountains aren't as impressive as the Cascades or Alps, but they are older and therefore prettier, in my opinion. We stopped at Krispy Kreme on the way out of town. As Daniel, who is twelve, exited the car he stopped me and said "Judy?? I missed seeing you". Talk about touching!! No twelve year old boys say this, do they?? I had to hug him it was so sweet!!
They were both itching to see a real General Store. Tiny Saluda, NC has a good one. Daniel got candy and Holly a jar of Honey, with a good chunk of comb in the jar. Though it was raining, they didn't complain. We had a nice hike to Pearson's Falls. They'd never seen a waterfall like that up close. Pearson's is a pretty 90 footer nestled in the side of a mountain. Its a twenty minute hike over flagstones and granite and well worth it. Though we all got soaked to the bone we still enjoyed it.

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Love in the fast lane

on August 6, 2010 - 3:10am

On June 6 I had a blind first date. We had fun. He took me to Carrabbas. I'd never had the pleasure of dining there before so it was nice.
Fast forward to today, our two month anniversary. He has two children, ages 14 and 12, and tomorrow I meet them for the first time. They want to meet me and have expressed their readiness to their father. I should mention their mother died when they were 3 and 5 years old. This is a big gigantic huge deal for me, as I never saw myself getting attached to a man with kids. I love kids, but due to the forces of nature being out of my control, I am infertile and had really just settled down to living alone with no one, or hopefully meeting someone wholly unattached and falling in love. Now here is this endearing, sweet, intelligent man who loves me dearly and I am falling for him and he has TEENAGERS. Oh and there's something else. In December when I get on a plane to see my family for Christmas, they are coming with me. My mother is ecstatic. I'm not quite there yet.

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Is it kindness.... or enabling?

on May 12, 2010 - 4:41am

My youngest Goddaughter, Jennifer, is set to graduate High School in three weeks. She has chosen to attend a small College in the Upstate of South Carolina. North Greenville University is a Baptist Church based Liberal Arts Public School, meaning she's eligible to recieve lots and lots of grants to pay for it. But that's not the issue. Her mother, my best friend of almost 26 years, is the issue. Kim is in College herself, having chosen to return to school after being fired from her crappy job (and it was crappy)to earn a degree to make her life better. So she is currently on unemployment, her sole source of income besides the monthly Child Support Check she receives from her ex husband for Jennifer's care. Well, it came down to crunch time for Jennifer to recieve her Cap, Gown, Tassel, invitations and memory book for Graduation and Kim, cash strapped, asked for help. So I checked my budget and gave Kim the $100.00 she needed to complete the purchase of these things so her daughter would have what she needed for the Ceremony. I also have begun collecting things that she will need for her dorm room.

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Church quandary

on April 11, 2010 - 5:11am

So I'm having a crisis of faith. Okay its my fault really. The Church I used to belong to changed drastically when the Priest decided, without asking the parish their opinion, to change the liturgy of the service. The Episcopal Church is laid out for the Priest to decide which way he wants the service to go. Whether to have readings from both the Old and New Testaments, a Psalm and then the Gospel reading or to switch out every other Sunday, leaving a reading out to make room for a longer sermon or more music. Well, Father took this option and personalized it by looking at the Old Testament Reading for the upcoming Sunday and deciding whether or not the material was "appropriate regarding message and content". He didn't want readings with references to sex, violence or politics used, so he, in effect, is censoring The Old Testament. And I cannot and will not stand for that. So I left a Church family that has done more for me than any Church I would know would do for a simple member who doesn't write thousand dollar checks once a month. And I feel horrible. I can't go back there. I would not be welcomed if I did. Is it time for me to take a break from organized religion??

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Does anyone notice

on January 31, 2010 - 4:24am

Someone who is so lonely she talks to her laundry just so she remembers the sound of her own voice?? Yes, that's me. I find it hard to read posts here on occasion, especially from the ones who are married with children. To have even a small taste of that kind of life; a life shared and busy and full of duties, responsibilities and fun, would be a dream. I just don't know if I will ever have that kind of life. My mother says I come from a long line of exceptionally strong women. I know I have inherited at least the "I will survive this" strength from my Aunts. But of the other strength, the strength that is necessary to make a marriage and a family work and keep together and be happy... I don't know.

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