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I will try to explain.............

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on December 24, 2006 - 1:30pm

Happy Christmas Eve to all. It has been crazy around here trying to get all the wrapping done for 9 other people. I do not like the wrapping of the presents at all as I totally suck at it. When I wrap something, it genarally comes off looking like a 2 year old did it. Not kidding. But, it is mostly done. Whew!

Went on a night walk again last night and enjoyed my new Hallmark Groban CD for the first time. Those two new songs are just beautiful, especially when you listen to them with headphones and you find yourself under the most clearest of skies. Just the words and music made me want to be swept away into the stars. I walked pretty long as I contemplated on all that I was feeling about the discussions on the FOJG boards. I guess I should have not let it get to me at all because when your trying to communicate anything with anyone on line, the total message is sure to get lost. Especially when your communicating with people you have never met face to face. Words on a screen do not show the feelings behind them. Without seeing those feelings, a person does not understand totally what that point is. Communication is so easily misinterpreted that disagreements end up being very common. But the person I am should have known that before I said anything. I will try to explain my point one last time as a few people have asked me to explain.......Let me start by saying that I am not mad at Mr Groban in any way, shape or form. I am a mom of 3 beautiful, and very young children, and who does her best to raise them in a world that is already so filled up on sex, body image issues, and so many other not so positive images. I want my daughters to grow up with a strong self esteem, who loves their body for what it is, and understand that sex is about something that happens between two people that care about each other enough to express it. It isn't something I want them to read about in a magazine, or any place else. I want them to grow up with a healthy attitude for it. Sure, I love sex as much as anyone else, but it isn't something I find approprite to talk about with other people.It is a very private matter. The term "Booty call/text" is very un flattering in my honost opinion. I know the day is coming when my kids will be out of my constant view and may venture off at a friends house and read , or see things that I do not know about. I am sure we have all done that as we are growing up. Granted, they are not Grobanites, and will not be effected by Josh's joking words. But, it is clear , that there are other teens out there who are and will read it and wonder if he was kidding. It has happened. A friend of mine has received messages from some wondering if it was true. Yes, we know now it was all sarcastic, but it still left an impression.Jokes can often be played too far. Even the best of us have said something at some point that maybe we shouldn't have. I just hope that when my kids go off and venture some singers/actors website, that other parents will have the same concerns for them as I know I can't prevent them from everything they see or read. I am sure some teen out there is looking at his words and saying, ok, Josh swears often, and uses those terms, so that means it is ok.......I don't think it is.But that is just how I feel about it. Yes, I have said a swear word or two , but generally just out of anger. At first, I was ready to blow the whole article off as just something I didn't want to read again, but the more I see Grobanites joking about it, the more offended I got. It has gotten totally blown way out of proportion. Yes, I probablly contributed to this whole thing, but I just felt I had to defend myself.Do you really think I like the fact that he said something that bothered me? I don't because I do know what a good person he has shown to be. He is very generous with his time and efforts, and I do appreciate that. I certainly hope that just because I feel a certain way, that I don't expect every one else to as well. I love the differences people have. But with those differences, comes debate and disagreements which can lead to serious arguments. I just wish everyone would respect that and listen to what is being said and not joke so much about something that bothers some. It really can hurt. I hate seeing anyone end up in tears because some Grobanites didn't think clearly enough to watch what they said. I have said this before, but just because you have a right to say something, doesen't mean you should. It is a shame this kind of bickering has to go on at all, especially in a club of such a decent person. I have my views, and stick to them.It won't change how I feel about the mans music at all. I may see him less of the clean cut person I use to, but ya know, everyone grows up. ......We all have those sides to us..........I just don't talk about them.......

I hope this helps to explain my feelings. I am not always great at explaing something that effects me deeply, but I am trying. I don't mean to upset anyone, just trying to vent my own personal issues with the matter. I much prefer to be silly and goof off than discuss matters like this. Anyway, time to move on.....

I hope everyone has a Very Happy Christmas and may love fill their hearts always.

My tip for today is, let a person who actually knows how to wrap do all the wrapping......

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