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Some Days It's Just Not Worth It!!!!

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on November 13, 2007 - 12:39am

I really hate when I try to be someone's friend, and I try to be honest about something that bothers me as kindly and lovingly as I can and it freakin' blows up in my face. But such is life sometimes.

There is a situaion with a person that I've kept quiet about for far too long. This "friend" has been having a really difficult time of it. Anyway, I don't mind listening, but some of the things said, starting way back earlier in the year sounded kind of outlandish to me. OK, honestly, I did kind of stop paying attention, except for a cursory sort of "listening" because it was starting to sound really exaggerated, and also because it was almost all negative. I have enough negative energy in my life. I don't need help in that area!!! Part of what bothered me (and not just me) is that this complaining was so public and it just brought us down. I'm not trying to say this person had no right to talk about this, but some things just don't need to be aired in public. I despise attention seeking behavior. It is so childish and I think that's what some of it is.

So I sent a message to this person to tell them that I am available by PM, e-mail, phone, etc if they need to talk, but the public airing of dirty laundry made me uncomfortable. I thought the message I sent was worded in a loving, caring fashion, and clearly reiterated that I am indeed this person's friend and that I truly care about them and their situation.

Well, I was then publicly accused of being "two-faced." (although my name was not mentioned, but I'm not sure I care if it would be mentioned because those who truly know me would figure out the truth, and those who would truly want to know would ask my side of the story!) Now, here's what really gets me. While calling me "two-faced" I get a visit to my profile and a comment telling me how much she loves me and misses me.

I could have told her what I needed to say in a much more cruel tone, and I in fact agonized over how to compose the message in a way that would make clear how I felt, while still not sounding mean and hateful.

So, I guess I shouldn't care so much...but I do. Not what people think of me so much...well, that's not entirely true. I do care what my friends think, but anyone else, who gives a flying F**K!!! Like I said, those who matter will try to sort out the truth. And if they don't, then I guess they don't really matter as much as I thought.

Now...my thought for the day....

Some days, it's just not worth chewing through the restraints!

LOL

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