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What is love?

ObiWanCannoli's picture
on December 16, 2007 - 6:35am

The proverbial question. Oh and a song by Howard Jones, do you remember Howard Jones? Does anyone remember him except me? Well it goes like this:

WHAT IS LOVE?
Howard Jones

I love you whether or not you love me
I love you even if you think that I don't
Sometimes I find you doubt my love for you, but I don't mind
Why should I mind, Why should I mind

Chorus
What is Love anyway, does anybody love anybody anyway
What is Love anyway, does anybody love anybody anyway

Can anybody love anyone so much that they will never fear
Never worry never be sad
The answer is they cannot love this much nobody can
This is why I don't mind you doubting

And maybe love is letting people be just what they want to be
The door always must be left unlocked
To love when circumstance may lead someone away from you
And not to spend the time just doubting

Remember him now? Okay that's all right you don't have to ...

So what I've been thinking about a LOT lately is love. You know it shouldn't just be conditional - it shouldn't just be who you're with. I know there's such a thing as true love, love where seeing the person makes your heart skip a beat, your pulse race, your cheeks flush ... my oldest son and his wife are in "love" - while the blushing and flushing has certainly worn off, they are with each other every single day, every hour of the day (neither one of them drive and when no one is home they are stuck here in the house) and yet when one or the other does manage to get away from the house for any length of time they miss each other terribly and long for the time when the other will return. *sigh* *deep breath* *letting it out slowly* Now I'm not saying that I don't "love" my husband ... but it's a different 'kind' of love. I want the kind of love that makes me anxious when I or "he" is away and I haven't spoken to "him" for oh, what, maybe 10 minutes. *giggle* I want to feel that hot rush of excitement when I know "he's" coming home or I'm almost there and I know "he's" waiting for me. I want to feel the comfort that comes with being in "his" arms. *dreamy sigh* Do any of you have that? Will you tell me about it? Can you tell me how it feels? I've been married three times and I've never, ever felt that. I was talking to someone who said that not everyone feels that way, not everyone has that. Some people are married for years and have never felt that. That is sad. I want to!! I hate this empty feeling I have inside. And you want to know why I write? Well that's why! I write so that I can have what I don't. Even lately I can't do that. I hate it! Any thoughts for me? Any of you worldly advice? I'm open to it.

There's a line from a song and it goes: When you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with. And while I do that ... I just can't subscribe to it!

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