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The Wrath of Calumny and Detraction

Ampatamia's picture
on January 12, 2008 - 2:42pm

Dear Josh - WOW! It has been quite awhile since I wrote to you. I wanted to continue my e-letters during the holiday season, but the chaos of that time of year overtook me quite quickly. I just had no time to write, and on top of that, I was going through another emotional coaster ride concerning my feelings for you and my interactions with other members of this website.

There are two sins, in my opinion,that I really want to avoid when I am writing to you. They are both sins fo the tongue. (i.e. gossip) They are called calumny and detraction. In case you would ever want to remember these sins think of the middle letter in each of them. "L" in calumny for "lies" and "TR" in detraction for "truth". A calumny is basically a lie or spreading a falsehood about someone. Detraction is making a statement of truth about someone to a person who has no right to know it. Both actions destroy a person's reputation. The Catholic Church always defends the right to someone's good name. Calumny and detraction destroy someone's good name. That is why they are considered MORTAL SINS in the teachings of the Catholic Church.

You do not know how easy it is to commit those sins in a blog like this. Josh, I do not write these e-letters for you to read them. Personally I DON'T THINK that you do read them even though you are always free to do so. I write these to help me sort out my thoughts and feelings concerning you.

But if I am struggling with feedback that I received from a fellow Grobie, I don't feel comfortable coming back here and writing about it. This happened A LOT right before the holiday season. At one point, I was even having a serious conflict with Grobie friend, my one and only friend in Grobania. We worked it through, thank God. But if I wrote about it here, I could have easily added calumny and detraction to the list of issues that we were wrestling with. And I did not want that to happen, not only to Grobie friend, but to another Grobie whose comments really struck a nerve with me. I DO NOT WANT to use this forum to destroy your good name, Josh, or the good names of those who choose to interact with me. I know that I have only ONE GOOD FRIEND here in Grobania, but that does not give me the right to damage the good names of those who choose NOT TO BE my friend.

As I wrestled with my feelings toward you this holiday season, I could see calumny and detraction entering in and making my life in Grobania a virtual nightmare, if I chose to write about it on this blog. So I had to step back and get some perspective. I am glad that I did, but calumny and detraction are still lurking around every corner. They know how sensitive I am to the feedback I receive from other Grobies concerning you, and they are ready to strike when I am sad and conflicted about you. The Christmas/holiday battle may be over, but the war is not. I hope that I can remember this when Calumny and Detraction make their appearance in Grobania once again.

Meanwhile, I missed the day in December that I was named "Friend of the Day." Do I have that right? I do not know. I discovered it by reading the comments on my last blog entry. I have NO IDEA how your people pick the Friend of the Day, but I am flattered that I was chosen. Thank you for that honor. It was another wonderful holiday present from you.

Well, I think that I am going to end this e-letter for now. There is more that I want to write, but I think that whoever reads this needs to have the space to think about the destructive reality of calumny and detraction on this website.

So in honor of your leading role in the play Chess in London, I bless you once again with the words of St. John of the Cross: "Take God for your spouse and friend, and walk with Him continually. You will not sin and you will learn to love, and the things that you MUST DO will work out PROSPEROUSLY for you." (emphasis mine.)

May God bless you abundantly, Josh Groban, whereever you are.

Sincerely,

Ampatamia, the LEAST of ALL the Grobanites.

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