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A NEW BEGINNING

Irishgirl127's picture
on October 3, 2008 - 5:49pm

Hello my dear friends,
This is the first chance I’ve had to give you an update on my mothers’ life. Please bare with my novel. First off I wish to thank Colette, Nessa , Maureen R., Lynn, Micah, Roger, Maureen-Grobanator, and Catwizard for all your thoughts and prayers. I could feel them at work. It all started on Oct. 1st. I received a call from my sister stating that my mother was nearing her new life. I came completely unglued because I hadn’t seen her in two and half weeks due to surgery and illness. I got myself together and got right over there. My father and sister were leaving as I was arriving. This was my time to be with mom. I spent the next 14 hours holding her hand, praying, talking and yes even singing to her. She so loved music. It was a passion of hers. I played some music for her and though she was unconscious most of the time she would crack a smile when she had the energy to do so. I came home yesterday to eat something and get cleaned up and that’s when I wrote a quickie on my journal. I went back and found mom’s hospice bather, nurse and social worker there. There were some issues to be addressed so I was the one to deal with them. It was more difficult than I ever imagined. I convinced my father to have mom transported to the nearest Hospice center where she would receive the care she so deserved. Mom was transported in late afternoon and was resting comfortably within twenty minutes of her arrival there. I guess what got me the most was the fact that the new caregivers at mom’s home
didn’t seem to know what they were doing. I was LIVID when I was enlightened about her situation. I didn’t recognize the fact that mom was in pain the whole time I was with her till her nurse told me. That was just one situation. By the time all this had transpired I had had 1 hour sleep in 29 hours. You might say I was frazzled. My sister and brother arrived at about 5:00pm. We sat in mom’s room which was by the way real homey and comfortable and exchanged memories of our mother and dad’s wife. The family was given as much care as our mother and wife. We spent time with her in her final hours. We couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful experience. Everyone left except for dad and me. I talked dad into lying down in the bed that the staff had made up for him next to mom. He slept for about four hours. In that time mom’s nurse (Alicia) came in and suggested I take a rest. I told her that I had to be awake for mom’s passing. She told me that she would stay with her and wake me when it came close for her to pass onto her new life. I slept for 15 minutes when I was awakened by Alicia. She told me that mom’s time was very near. Mom’s breathing was very slight but she was so very peaceful and within 5 breaths she was gone. She left us with a smile on her face. It was the most beautiful and spiritual experience that I have ever had. I will hold those moments close to my heart for the rest of my life. My father and I were relieved and rejoiced in her passing. I will hold those moments close to my heart for the rest of my life as well as the moment that Josh gave me with my mom just a couple of months ago. Josh holds a very special place in my heart ever since he and his music gave me a memory that I will hold dear to me for the rest of my living days. I need to go as I have only had 1 ½ hours sleep since 1:30 am Wednesday morning and it is now 5:45pm.
Thank you again my friends for all of your support. You mean a great deal to me.

Shirley

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