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Reconnecting...

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on March 15, 2009 - 11:08pm

So I've been on Facebook way too much this weekend...but it's been fun playing around and chatting with people I had long lost contact with. I found my childhood best friend from when I lived in Michigan--she's still there. I talked to a close friend from junior high who had moved when we went to high school--she found me the other day. And I found a cousin who lives across the US from me who I only have seen once in person...he was almost 4 at the time...he's almost 17 now. His dad (my uncle) had distanced himself from our family a long time ago and they, in an attempt to reconcile, visited my grandparents a month after I got married. My grandmother urged several of us to be there when they got there that day. So a few of us went, though we protested. Bad mistake. Everyone ended up in another big argument; I, being me, tried to mediate & calm everyone down. However, part of that included sweeping my cousin up and running him into the house to keep him from witnessing a particular messy argument between our dads. Now, 13 years later, my uncle has since continued to mess his life up the past 3 years and hasn't seen his kids (4 of them) and his wife divorced him. It's so sad. This uncle was the "cool uncle" I always wanted to hang around when I was little...and his oldest is the cousin I found in facebook tonight. Well, he had originally accepted my friend request--even though he wasn't sure who I was. But then later on, he sent me a message saying he wasn't sure we should stay in contact due to the status of his family's relationship with his dad (his dad is my mom's brother; they talk all the time...). My heart is broken--even though I don't really even know him & never really did. What's worse, is in the time I was able to see his facebook page, what I saw was pure evidence of a very troubled teen. There is absolutely nothing I can do about it and it's killing me...

So...thanks for letting me spill my stuff here...it helps to have a sounding board...

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